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Work Happy: How to be Happier at Work

May 27, 2011

Happiness is within your reach right now, in your personal life and at work. It’s often easier to be happy in our personal lives where we have more control over our activities and schedule, so how do we experience happiness at work?

Happiness is a state of being, it comes from within you. A life of happiness comes from a regular practice of happiness instead of a “I’ll be happy when” mindset. Here are just a few ideas to help you experience more happiness at work.

It’s all in your attitude.
To feel happy you’ve got to think happy. Surround yourself with reminders of your own happiness to cultivate an attitude of happiness. You can do this by hanging photos of family, friends or a fun vacation in your cubicle. Decorate your office area with colors or textures that you like. If music is allowed, play music at work that evokes feelings of happiness. Make your workspace happy and you’ll feel happier.

Spend time with happy people.
If you want to be happy, surround yourself with people who are happy. You don’t have to spend all your time with very cheerful and optimistic co-workers if that’s not your style. Instead, limit your time with co-workers who gossip and complain, and seek out conversation and collaboration with co-workers who focus on solutions. Happy people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t.

Stop waiting for happiness to come to you.
Have you been waiting for waiting for the raise, recognition or promotion you know you deserve to be happy? When your happiness is contingent upon your situation it’s likely you won’t experience much happiness as long as things aren’t going your way. While recognition in the form or money or status can influence your happiness, these things aren’t the cause of your happiness, it’s your appreciation of them that makes you feel happy. As long as you’re focused on achieving more as a qualifier for happiness, there’s always going to be more to achieve and you’ll never reach contentment. As soon as you have one thing, you’ll want something else. Practice being happy for the things you have right now that are working for you. Note I didn’t suggest that you be happy for things that aren’t working for you, but really feel appreciation for what is.

Let go of what you can’t control.
You don’t control other people, so let go of your negative opinions about your annoying/slacker/rude/difficult co-worker. You may have legitimate complaints but complaining very rarely affects change in another person and focusing on your complaints only makes you unhappy in the long term. You don’t have to approve of or agree with your co-workers to let go of your judgements. Try focusing on yourself- what you’re doing, thinking and feeling instead of paying so much attention to whether or not someone else is behaving badly. You have a choice, would you rather be right or happy? Love yourself enough to let go of something that is out of your hands.

Boost your mood with a smile.

Just be happy.

Smile.
A smile is scientifically proven to improve your mood. Turn up the corners of your mouth. Flash those pearly whites! Smiling is contagious and most people will smile if you smile at them. With all that smiling around the office, pretty soon you’ll find you’re smiling without thinking about it.

Laugh.
And while we’re on the subject of smiling, don’t forget to laugh, too. Laughter really is the best medicine. It’s free, it’s fun and it’s guaranteed to make you feel happier.

Give thanks.
Gratitude is my all time favorite practice of happiness. Make a habit of writing a gratitude list- when you’re happy and when you’re not. Actively acknowledging the joys in your life will increase your happiness when you’re already feeling happy, and help you to have a more positive perspective when you’re not. Are you going to be grateful for what you have, or grieve what you don’t have? You will be happier with a little gratitude.

Happiness isn’t an achievement, it’s a tool that you can choose to pick up and use. Practice happiness every day and you will be happier, regardless of your situation. The more you think, hear, act and speak happy, the more you’ll feel happy. You already have happiness within you, all you have to do is practice it.

“No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.” – Barbara de Angelis

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Mindfulness in a Minute

May 20, 2011

You may think mindfulness is a spiritual or meditation practice but mindfulness is so much more than that. The benefits of mindfulness are many and you can put mindfulness into action in your work and your life today. Mindfulness allows you to have greater enjoyment of life, as well as improved concentration. Mindfulness can focus and inspire innovation and productivity.

Psychology Today defines mindfulness as, “a state of active, open attention on the present. When you’re mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment and awakening to experience.”

How can a practice of mindfulness benefit your career? Mindfulness can help you do your best work, and feel confidence in your abilities without the stress of your boss’s, client’s or your own expectations. When you are being mindful in your work, you are working in the moment and awakening to your success. Paying careful attention to your work, without judgment, allows you to consider alternative methods to accomplish your work, gain a deeper understanding of business concepts, and opens your mind to innovative and creative ideas.

Let’s consider mindfulness as more than an abstract thought. You can put mindfulness in action in your life this very minute.

Inventory your work.
Just as a retail store counts and records the quantity of their product stock, you can inventory your tasks, talents and time.

The purpose of this exercise is not to judge your tasks, talents and time as good or bad, positive or negative. The purpose of your inventory is to assess what you need, what you have, and how much time it will take.

You can start your inventory by answering these simple questions: Who?, What?, Where?, Why?, When?, and How?

Who is the end recipient of the information?
Who will be involved with the task?
What is the purpose of the project?
What do you need to accomplish the task?
What is the desired result?
Where will your report be put to use?
Why is it needed?
When is it needed?
How will you accomplish the task?
How is the desired result measured?

Recognize your limitations.
Once you’ve taken your project inventory, assess the tools you need to accomplish the desired result. It’s important not to judge your inventory results, only to recognize what you have versus what you need.

It’s likely there are tools, skills or resources you need that you don’t have. This is your opportunity to ask for help, delegate, ask for more time, or determine a boundary. Setting a boundary may sound something like, “I haven’t been trained on this project, but I’m willing to give it my best effort.”

Accepting your limitations doesn’t mean you’re not up to the task, it does tell your employer or client you’re taking ownership of your product, that you care about communication and meeting shared goals and needs.

Be thoughtful and present in your work.

Engage your talents.

Engage yourself in your work.
Have you ever worked on project that didn’t require much thought or attention and you simply did exactly what you were told without considering the task in front of you? Don’t be content to merely do, instead you can be present. Think about what you are doing!

Consider your actions. You are encouraged not to judge your actions as right or wrong, simply consider them. What are you doing? What other method, software, or process might you use? Brainstorm possibilities from the realistic to the ridiculous, even if you don’t change your action. Sometimes it’s enough to know your options.

What skills, talents and experience are you putting to good use? Think about past projects where you may have used similar solutions or methods. Perhaps you can refresh an languishing skill or expand your experience.

How does your work align with your client, team or company? You are part of something bigger, an essential member of a larger community. What you do affects that larger community, just as your community affects you. This awareness can lead to collaboration, information sharing, and appreciation.

Be thoughtful about what you’re doing. Engaging in your work means you are mindfully participating, considering your actions, methods and your responsibility. When you are being mindful in your work, you are actively engaging and participating in your career and your success.

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Stress Management Tips That Work NOW!

May 12, 2011

Stress is in your life every day and often affects the way we think, feel and how we treat ourselves and others. Many stress management tips and techniques focus on activities you can do in your free time, before or after work, but what about when you find yourself in the middle of a stressful day at work? How do you get through the work day?

I have quite a few go-to tools in my stress management toolbox. Some of the these tools are obvious, but when I find myself already feeling stressed, sometimes even obvious solutions elude me. My top stress management tips that immediately work, anywhere, anytime are:

Take a deep breath. No, really. Sit up straight in your chair, roll your shoulders back, close your eyes, and count to three as you inhale and again as you exhale. As you breathe, relax your tongue in mouth and feel your jaw relax. Take at least three deep breaths.

Your breath is powerful, it carries oxygen to your brain and every cell in your body. Often when we are stressed, and, let’s be honest, even when we’re not, we tend to slouch and to breathe shallow breaths.

Even if you think this technique will not work for you, why not try it anyway? What do you have to loose, other than your stress? Taking three deep breaths is not going to harm you and it just may help you if you open your mind and your heart and breathe!

Shrug your shoulders. Shrug your shoulders, bringing your shoulders up to your ears, then let your shoulders fall. Make this technique more effective by breathing in as you raise your shoulders and exhale sharply as you drop your shoulders down away from your ears. Repeat the shoulder shrug three to five times.

I know, I know, again with the breath. Shrugging your shoulders with your breath isn’t going to change your life, but it can change your moment. And your day is a collection of moments and your life is a collection of days and years.

At the very least you may just look comical enough shrugging your shoulders and exhaling sharply that you’ll let out a chuckle and everyone knows laughter is great stress relief! You can even throw your arms in the air.

Stress can't get you down if you're standing tall.

Say goodbye to work stress.

Walk away from your desk. Stand up and walk away from your desk, even if only for five minutes. Do not collect $200 and do not walk directly into a co-worker’s office. Walk in the opposite direction of your work. Take this opportunity to get a drink of water, use the restroom, or even walk outside, into the sunshine, and change your view.

There are days when I find myself in the middle of a problem or project and I forget to get up and walk away from my desk from time to time. Or worse, I think of walking away and don’t follow through. Then I ask myself, “how much work am I really going to get done in five minutes? Do I really not have five minutes to spare?” Even when I’m working on an urgent project, I find I can focus better when I return from a five minute break.

Take a mental step back. Trust me, this is not as crazy as it sounds. When you’re focused too intently on the problem in front of you it feels like that problem is enormous and the problem overwhelms your day.

Put a little perspective in your day by putting your day in perspective. If you are doing something you don’t like or something that causes you stress, you aren’t doing it forever, you are only doing it today. One of my favorite tools is using “Just for today”. Recognize that the stress in front of you is just for today, and you can do what you need to do to get through it. Try saying one of my favorite “Just for today” statements or create your own.

Just for today I will do my work honestly.

Just for today I will not complain.

Just for today I will complete the task in front of me.

Just for today I will love myself enough to let go of something I have no control over.

Just for today I will not worry.

Just for today I will do my work with appreciation.

Just for today I will earn my living honestly.

Just for today I will treat everyone with respect and kindness.

Just for today I will give this day my best effort.

Each of these stress management tips instantly relieve stress in my day. I hope you will try one or all of my tips, or find some that work for you. What will you do just for today to put your day in perspective and manage your stress?

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7 ways to ace your next performance review!

May 5, 2011

Don’t be content to sit back and let your performance review happen to you; opt instead to participate and shine! Your performance review is an opportunity to highlight your accomplishments, communicate your value, create a positive working relationship with your boss, and set your goals for the coming year.

Think of your performance review like an interview, it is your chance to showcase your qualifications and experience to your employer and direct your career success. Like an interview, it is important to come prepared and doing so will allow you to speak intelligently on the topic of you and your career.

Facing my first performance review at a new job after working for over seven years working without a performance review was daunting and a little unnerving. I did some research and came up with these ideas to prepare to rock my review and I have enjoyed positive experience with performance reviews since. Here are 7 ways to ace your next performance review.

1) Revisit your most recent review. Consider any feedback you received and any improvements you’ve made. If you received constructive criticism, how have you changed? If you received positive feedback, how have you continued to build on your success? Be prepared to talk about your progress and take an active role in your professional growth.

2) Make a list of your accomplishments. Have you completed additional training or learned a new skill? Did you work on a major campaign or project? Did you increase efficiency or productivity? Recognize the value you bring to your employer and don’t be afraid to own your success.

3) Evaluate your work and come up with a list of skills you want to build in the coming year. You can impress your supervisor by recognizing and actively seeking to improve your weaknesses. Be honest with yourself, and also gentle in your assessment. It’s important to be fair without being too hard on yourself. Acknowledging areas that may need improvement shows you are thoughtful, proactive, and care about doing good work.

4) Create a list of goals for your career. Your boss may or may not ask you about your goals, either way it pays to be prepared to answer this important question. Whether or not your goals come up in your performance review, knowing your own goals will help you make informed decisions about your career and take advantage of opportunities that arise.

5) Outline how you will improve your skills and reach your goals. Your performance review is a great opportunity to actively involve yourself in your career success and show your employer how you focus on solutions. Research training opportunities, when they are coming up next and how much they cost. Find a mentor that is successful in an area you want to learn more about. Whatever your solution, tell your employer exactly how you will build on your career success.

6) Consider what you truly enjoy about working for your employer and, specifically, working with your direct manager. Being a supervisor is a tough job and most employees don’t think to say “thank you” to their boss. Use your performance review as an opportunity to share your gratitude with your manager. Let him or her know exactly why and how much you appreciate working with them and what you like about your working for your company.

7) Be prepared to turn negative feedback into accomplishments. If negative feedback is given, ask questions about how you can improve, what outstanding performance looks like to your supervisor, and how you will know when you’ve done great work. Resist the temptation to argue, complain or stay silent. Asking questions shows your employer you want to succeed and you are willing to see their point of view and make improvements.

Preparing for your performance review and actively participating in your performance discussion will boost your confidence, highlight your value to your employer, and help you focus and direct your future career development.

Are there other topics would you like to read about on Live Love Work? Reader questions are welcome and I’d love to explore areas of challenge and growth in your professional life.

How to change yourself and love life!

April 28, 2011
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Change begins by walking the path.

What does it take to create change in your life? This answer is different for different people. I believe personal and professional improvement is the result of practice.

A co-worker recently told me that he considered most professional training to be a waste of time because, he suggested, people do not implement all the new ideas and tools they learn when they return to the office.

My co-worker’s view got me thinking about improvements I’ve made in my life and how I change myself for the better. It’s true that I don’t immediately implement every great new idea and method I read about or learn. For me, change just doesn’t work that way. What does work for me is practice.

Wikipedia defines practice as a learning method to gain and improve skills by rehearsing them over and over. In my life, self improvement, including self confidence, gratitude, joy and love are learned and nurtured by practice.

So how do you, or I as the case may be, go about practicing change?

~Expose yourself to new and positive ways of thinking.
I read books, blogs and articles on topics related to the areas of my life where I lack confidence, joy and love. I seek out productive solutions and try to keep an open mind and a fresh perspective.

~Visit and revisit changed attitudes.
The truth is I’m not going to understand how to take a new idea or attitude and put it to work in my life the first time I hear about it, and maybe not even the second or third time I hear it. I re-read stories and ideas that inspire me and challenge my old patterns of thinking.

~Express your goals.
Write a favorite quote or mantra on a note and stick it on your mirror, your computer monitor, or the steering wheel of your car- wherever you will see it, and read it, regularly. Better yet, speak your empowering message out loud. Even better than that, look at yourself in the mirror and speak your truth, no matter how silly it feels the first time you do so. I promise it will feel great with practice!

~Listen and share positive progress.
I discover many great ideas and insights through talking to others facing similar challenges. Listen to what others have to say about creating positive change in their life and share what you are doing that’s working for you. Talk to a friend in person, call someone on the phone, or even share your experience, strength and hope on your own blog. Surround yourself with the supporters of your truth.

~Keep doing what works for you.
In my past I would become attached to a result I wanted and would stubbornly cling to a method that just wasn’t working for me. When I learned to let go, I found it was easier to repeat the actions that encourage confidence, joy and love in my life and let go of the actions that don’t. If something is working in your life, keep it up! If something isn’t working, be open to letting it go.

~Be mindful of your progress.
As a former perfectionist, nothing I did was ever good enough for me unless I achieved the exact result I wanted. As a reformed perfectionist, I celebrate and enjoy my practice and my progress instead of focusing on the result. Whenever I am practicing positive and productive behavior in my life, it is my behavior, not the result of my behavior, that offers value and meaning.

~Practice positive and affirming beliefs in all areas of your life.
My pursuit of self improvement has affected my work and life. It has given me the freedom, and the ability to be happy wherever I am. When I love this life, that joy and gratitude is evident in my work, my relationships, my health- every little detail of my life.

Whatever improvement you want to see in your life, practice being that changed person every day and soon you will find that you have, indeed, changed.

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Practice constructive and respectful conflict resolution.

April 22, 2011

Dealing with conflict can be one of the most difficult challenges in our careers. When we perceive someone else’s behavior as annoying, disrespectful or harmful, it’s difficult to address the issue constructively.

We might make a joke out of the situation, hoping the other person will catch on and change their behavior. This tactic sound less confrontational than directly addressing conflict, however in my experience it has never lead to a solution. Other people either don’t realize we are upset, or are left wondering what, exactly, is upsetting us.

Another school of thought is to politely offer suggestions for change or improvement. Again, this method sounds non-confrontational and even helpful, but it rarely comes across as such to someone else. Many people do not appreciate being corrected and even “helpful” suggestions are likely result in defensiveness.

So what types of conflict resolution lead to resolution? The following techniques have worked for me in addressing and resolving conflict in the workplace:

Take ownership of your emotions. You may want to blame the effects of conflict on someone else’s behavior, but at the end of the day you are the one who has to live with how you are affected by the situation. Acknowledge your reaction and recognize that your reaction belongs to you. Other people affect our lives, and we ultimately decide how to manage our response.

Put the situation in perspective. Ask yourself, “how important is it?” Will you remember the current conflict six months from now? Recognizing that we all have faults, is the conflict serious enough to warrant a confrontation? What would happen if you didn’t address the situation? What is the best and worst case scenario if you did? Decide what, if anything, you have to loose or gain.

THINK Are your words and actions Thoughtful, Honest, Intelligent, Necessary and Kind? Take a moment to THINK about your participation in the conflict. When I THINK through a problem and can answer “yes” to all five qualifiers I know I’m treating myself and others with respect.

Ask for assistance. If you’ve determined you need to confront another person, try asking for their help instead of expressing your frustrations over their behavior. Most people are much more likely to help when asked and less likely to change when accused or demanded. You might say something like, “Thanks for meeting with me. It’s important to me that we have a positive working relationship and I hope you agree. I’ve been having a difficult time lately and think you may be able to help me. Would you be willing to do that?”

Brainstorm solutions. Instead of insisting on your ideal resolution, invite the other person to offer their ideas to solve the problem. Be open to someone else’s ideas and share your own. Together you have the opportunity to discover a solution that works for everyone and allows all parties to feel engaged and respected.

Express gratitude. Sincerely thank your co-worker for their time and consideration in addressing the conflict. Recognize that they are giving of themselves to you and you can give them the gift of gratitude.

Discover the Power of Self-Love!

April 14, 2011

Every day I practice self-love to the best of my ability, and this practice helps me be at my best. But what is self-love, exactly?

I define self-love as loving, kind, and compassionate treatment of myself. Self-love is taking care of my mental, emotional and physical health. I believe that I deserve to be loved, just as I believe that every one of you deserves love, too. Expressing this love and care I feel for the world starts with myself.

Self-love is not a behavior I practice at the expense of others, just as I do not practice loving someone else at the expense of myself. When my life is in balance, I love myself and others equally, treating every person with kindness, respect and compassion, and doing harm to none.

In his book, The Art of Loving, psychologist Erich Fromm explored the idea of self-love, suggesting that self-love is different from arrogance or conceit. Instead, Fromm suggests self-love signifies care of, responsibility for, respect for and knowing oneself. By practicing self-love, we are better able to share and show love to others.

Self-love is a practice and a belief and there are many different ways we can exercise self-love in our lives. Here are a few ideas to consider:

~Look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you.” Say it often and say it loud! This exercise may feel silly or strange in the beginning, but soon it will feel wonderful.

~Treat yourself with kindness. If you make a mistake, try not to beat yourself up or think self-deprecating thoughts. Let a kind thought or word replace an unkind one.

~Take care of your needs. Are you hungry, angry, lonely or tired? HALT and get something healthy to eat, go for walk to cool down, call a friend or family member, or get some much needed rest.

~Accept responsibility for your attitude. When you feel the urge to blame a bad mood on the traffic, or your co-worker, or some other outside source, take a deep breath and accept responsibility for your attitude. Outside factors can influence your attitude, and you decide what you hang on to and what you let go.

~Recognize your talents and accomplishments. Think of something you do well or an achievement you made at work and take a moment to simply be aware of your skills. You’re awesome in your own way!

Self-love and self-confidence are attractive qualities that will allow you to experience love in every area of your life! Love yourself to be your best, feel your best and live your best life.

How will you share your love with yourself and the world today?

Turn negative feedback into accomplishments.

April 8, 2011

Receiving negative feedback at work is difficult to process. No one enjoys receiving a poor performance review or negative comments about your work but you can turn it around and make it work for you.

When you receive criticism, stop and take a moment to clear your head. Take a deep breath, go for a walk, find a place of calm within you. You may feel overwhelmed with emotion or you may feel like it’s the end of the world- at least the end of your career. Remember, you will get past this. It’s important to recognize that none of us are perfect; we’ve all made mistakes and received criticism at work.

Consider the feedback you’ve received, looking past any unfavorable language or poorly communicated guidance. Chances are there is some constructive criticism to acknowledge and opportunity for improvement. Even if you’ve performed well to your own standards, your employer may have different culture, standard or goal.

If it was not already provided, ask for specific, measurable goals for improvement. In your manager’s eyes, what does positive performance look like? How is it measured? How will you know when you’ve achieved it?

Going forward, focus on what you can do better and do it. Pay close attention to the areas you can improve and channel your energy into doing your best work. Wow your employer and co-workers with your efforts and dispel any doubts about your abilities.

Try your best to practice a positive attitude. A positive attitude is contagious, and you will soon have the people around you rallying behind you and supporting you to do great work.

Although it might be tempting to do so, don’t complain! Complaining will lead to resentment, frustration and will hold you back. When you complain you’re focusing on what isn’t working instead of what is. Regardless of any negative feedback you received, you are still a valuable employee with great skills to offer your employer. Recognize your own value and celebrate your talents!

When you can face criticism and use it to improve your performance and attitude, you will gain confidence in yourself and your abilities. You will impress your employer and yourself!

While receiving negative feedback is discouraging at first, recognize that you can do better and applying yourself to development and growth will provide you with a sense of satisfaction and work accomplishments you will carry with you throughout your career.

Rediscover your goals and revive your intentions.

April 1, 2011

Getting back on track when you’ve strayed from your goals can be difficult. Let me talk about myself here; it is challenging for me to get back to doing what I know is right for me, even as I recognize the many potential rewards to sticking with my intentions.

In the end, most of my successes have not been a result of doing something perfectly, but from the act of doing something at all. Success is the experience and confidence I find in myself when I give my best effort to this day.

So I sit here asking myself what holds me back when I know what I want to do and I don’t do it. I may find excuses and constraints to shoulder the blame; I point my finger at time or stress or energy. Getting back on track with my goals is not a result of buying into excuses, nor is it achieved by berating myself or focusing on my slip-ups.

Every day I can put my intentions and goals into action if I choose. I have the opportunity to give this day my best effort. What I did yesterday and what I might do tomorrow are far less important than the attention I give to this day.

Today I am giving this blog my best effort after a hiatus and subsequent cycle of excuses, avoidance and procrastination. Today I am also making purposeful and positive choices about diet, exercise, and sleep after a similar hiatus and cycle of excuses, avoidance and procrastination. Gratefully, today I’m loving my life, and giving myself every opportunity to be active and practice my best effort towards achieving my goals.

What will you do to give the best of yourself today?

Embrace responsibility for loving your work-life!

January 24, 2011

An employment relationship is a two-way street which benefits both the employee and employer. As an employee, sometimes it feels like the employer has the power and the employee has little-to-none. We do have power at work- power over ourselves, our attitudes, our treatment of ourselves and co-workers, and the work we do.

Loving my work-life means I have the opportunity and choice to be responsible for myself. I start by practicing an attitude of gratitude. I make frequent, almost daily, gratitude lists. While there’s usually something in my work-life that doesn’t go the way I want it to, there are also many more things that are energizing, beautiful, fun, engaging, inspiring and happy. For me being happy doesn’t mean everything’s going my way, it means I’m grateful for everything that is going my way.

Another important practice for loving my work-life is taking care of myself. Every day I practice meeting my basic needs such as getting enough sleep, making good, or at least decent, food choices, getting even small amounts of exercise, drinking water, taking breaks, and most importantly, giving myself a break. I absolutely can’t do my best or be my best if I haven’t taken good care of myself first.

I do my best to apply the same care to others, giving family, co-workers, friends and strangers on the street the opportunity to take care of themselves. I practice treating others with a loving and accepting heart. I can trust and respect my co-workers enough to believe they can and will take care of themselves, and it is not my business to try to do so for them, or tell them how to do so for themselves.

I also have power over the work I do. I can practice working mindfully and keeping the focus on my work. There are times when I am tempted to focus on the situation around me instead of the work I am doing. I have found time and time again that I end up feeling frustrated, overwhelmed and usually dissatisfied when I focus on all the things I do not have power over instead of the things that I do.

I do not choose to accept mistreatment or legitimately unfair situations at work, however once I have productively stated my specific concerns to the appropriate person(s), I find much more satisfaction when I let go of any complaints and focus on doing my best on the work in front of me.

None of these behaviors of love were easy to come by for me. They take practice and more practice and even more practice. Sometimes I still slip back into less loving ways of interacting with my work-life, giving all my power away to others to determine what type of day I will have. When I step away from loving my work-life, I have the chance to learn from the experience, laugh about it if I can, and try again.